So, I had to ask my Mom to go home, or what is left of it. She lied to me about not being able to get in (she said she didn't have keys) I found out that they (her and her BF) fought the city's fire department's court order to sanitize and empty her house, so half the work got done. She now has the nerve to say they threw out all her good stuff and left her with garbage, when all there was in there was GARBAGE! I pity her insanity, but she is not doing what she needs to get help, so I have to protect me, and my kids. I am grateful to have had a couple good talks while she was here, and see the Mother, and the demons in her, yes I see the split.
I was left emotionally drained, and have yet to recover. My kids are all acting up too, so I guess it may take a while for things to settle down.
These last few months are the most stressful in many years for me, my youngest, who has lived full-time with his Dad since 2004, in now here full-time and is in a special behavior modification program, my middle child started grade 7 (high school here) and my 15 going on 30 year old daughter is blooming full speed into the "she knows it all" phase. I started a new job back in late winter at the same time I started my first healthy relationship EVER. He has 2 teenage daughters too, and is living his own "life stuff", so combined our lives are stressful-busy. We are due for a date night/weekend to ourselves (hint hint!). I need to work on having a bit of me time...
OK so I've needed to let this out for a couple weeks now, I feel a bit better.
thanks for reading :)

my Mom, a Grandma

quick update...
my mom was released, she stayed with my sister one day and one night, then spent a day and a night in the country with more of her dogs...then Saturday she and her boyfriend and a cat, came here. I came home from spending time in the country Sunday. Just 10 minutes ago, I saw her as a grandma for the first time...in 12+ years, to my 9 year old son, I was tearing up so bad I had to come upsairs to hide, and share this. I just know, there won't be many more moments like this. Unless she gets the help she needs... may she find it.